Maybe one day he'll realize that being female 24/7 feels right to him, and he'll transition. Maybe he's satisfied (like the majority of crossdressers) by just expressing his femininity a few hours at a time. Now you know his deepest secret, so that's such a relief to him! Just having his family know and accept him for who he is huge, in a great way.Īs far as your son's crossdressing goes, that's something he's going to have to explore in his own way. This burden has lead many young people to depression and suicide. He was dealing with this alone and in secret, and it was likely tearing him up inside. For some time, your son has been carrying immense guilt and shame for urges he didn't ask to have. Your son is the same person he was before you walked in on him.
Of course you should tell your wife, but present it positively, almost like its good news. Of all the hypothetical things that you could've walked in on your teenager doing, I'd say you got lucky. Secondly, just take a second and appreciate that what your son is doing is completely innocent and doesn't hurt anyone. Even though you didn't know exactly what to do in that situation (who would?) you at least treated your son with compassion and understanding. If this is the biggest challenge we have to face with him, I'll be getting off easy.įirst of all, good job. He's a very smart, successful kid and will be going to a great college next year. So as a part of that, if he wants, my wife will get him some clothes or he can choose to order some online.Īnyway, if people are interested, I'll post follow ups. He will also need to stop wearng his sisters clothes. He will have the option to wear whatever clothes he wants at home, but I'm gong to caution him about wearing girls clothes anywhere else. We'll give him options to talk with us, a therapist if he wants to, or whatever. While I support him, I don't know if he should tell his sister, but I'll leave it up to him.
She thought it might just be a curiosity on his part, and maybe it is, maybe it isn't. She strongly suspected he'd been wearing their clothes, just from little clues I guess. Help a father out.Įdit: I got home last night and talked with my wife. Looking for advice, criticism and other comments. But this isn't something I wouldn't tell my wife, his mother, about. I can't keep a secret like this from her. What can I do to help him, and what do I tell my wife and when. How do I show him its fine but also to be aware of who he tells. His friends or worse, his enemies at school. my biggest concern is what we'll happen to him if other people find out. I might be uncomfortable, but I can deal with that. I've got a couple things I want to cover with him.
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All I'll be doing is thinking about how to handle this. So now I'm in the parking lot at work, getting ready to go in for the night. He doesn't think he's gay and he doesn't think he wants a sex change. He's been wearing his sisters clothes, and his mom's clothes for years. Ah, if only I had contemplated this.Īnyway, we talked for a little while and he told me the whole thing. Now, we're pretty liberal patents, and I always figured if either of my kids was gay or whatever I could handle it easy.
He said that he liked to wear girls clothes sometimes and he was sorry. I didn't even know how to start, so I just asked what was going on. He was in boy clothes sitting on his bed. I waited a few minutes and knocked on his door asking if we could talk. He ran to his room and I could tell he was crying. I didn't know what to say, and I didn't say anything. He was wearing his sisters dress and a stuffed bra and I'm pretty sure a wig. When I came in, I saw what I thought was my 15 yr old daughter on the couch watching TV, but was shocked, or more if that's possible, when "she" stood up and I immediately recognized that it was my 17 yr old son.